God's Wounded Families
by Lois Tverberg
Many people feel that brokenness in their background prevents God from using them for his greatest purposes. Yet, as we look at Jacob's family, even though deep woundedness followed them much their lives, God worked to heal them. But we also see that the process can be long and slow.
The difficulties began back when Jacob was forced to marry Leah, the sister of the woman he loved, Rachel. Leah bore son after son for Jacob, each time hoping that finally, Jacob would love her as he did her sister. But he never did. This was evident many years later when the brothers asked Jacob to let Benjamin come with them to Egypt. He said, "My son shall not go down with you; for his brother is dead, and he alone is left!" (Gen. 42:38) The statement hints that he considered Benjamin his only "real" son, the only one left he really cared about. Jacob's favoritism for Rachel and her children had left deep scars on his other sons.
The unloved brothers' woundedness was what caused them to nearly to murder Joseph, and many years later when they come to Egypt, they were still plagued by guilt for their cruelty toward him. When we read that Joseph made himself known and invited them down to Egypt, we think that we've reached the "happy ending" that all good Christian stories ought to have! But, the final verses in Genesis reveal that the issues in this dysfunctional family lingered for years after that. After their father died, the brothers returned to the worry that Joseph was still plotting to repay them for their crime against him. At that point Joseph wept one more time. Was it because he had thought that his family wounds had been mended and he saw that they still had not been?
When we see
that this family who was to bless all the families of the earth is very
average in terms of its pain, we can take hope that God truly can use
anybody. God worked through their sinfulness to accomplish his purposes,
b ut he isn't a God of magical, quick fixes. After a great
act of redemption in their lives (moving them to Egypt to be saved from
the famine) their problems weren't over, but he was gently working to
bring them back together as a family. This is the note on which
their story ends.
ut he isn't a God of magical, quick fixes. After a great act of redemption in their lives (moving them to Egypt to be saved from the famine) their problems weren't over, but he was gently working to bring them back together as a family. This is the note on which their story ends.
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